Relationships are not easy. You may have love and animal-like passion towards each other but that is not enough to sustain a long, happy, and satisfied partnership. There are so many factors that can make or break a union.
Every person comes with their own personalities and set of ideas. It’s hard to look within ourselves to recognize our shortcomings. It’s even more difficult to change, particularly, when this is the person you have been as long as you can remember. Nonetheless, here are behaviours that can definitely break your relationship, regardless how much in love you are.
#1. Ghosts of Relationships’ Past.
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Bringing the baggage from previous relationships will eventually seep into your new one. Deal with whatever has happened in order to move on and really have a shot in your new partnership.
#2. Be trustworthy.
You can say all the wonderful things your partner expects but if he or she does not trust you, then your words and actions do not mean anything. You need to ask yourself why you’re not trusted and begin a process of redemption and change.
#3. Eye Contact.
Regardless of the type of relationship you have, communication is important and part of that is eye contact. Looking at the person in the eye confirms you are present, listening, and engaged. Avoiding something so basic means you are checked out but too cowardly to admit it.
#4. Stop whining.
Nothing is ever good enough and you are more than willing to point out all the thing your partner does wrong. You are not perfect and this constant complaining not only becomes a habit, it’s a destructive one as well.
#5. Don’t forget to celebrate.
You found each other and some people spend a lifetime doing that without success. Celebrate your love and life together. It’s not corny, it’s showing joy at being in each other’s lives.
#6. Being self absorbed is not confidence.
Not everything is about you. You need to give more of yourself and be willing to give in and make sacrifices. If it’s all about you, all the time, your partner will begin to withdraw and eventually leave the relationship.
#7. Sex is essential.
Everyone has sexual needs. Keep sex exciting, fulfilling, and fun. Never use sex as punishment or as a reward system. It cheapens the act and takes away the essence of it.
#8. You act like you are single.
You may care for your friends and love hanging out with them. Just remember they are not your life partner. Find a balance and don’t forget you are in a committed relationship that needs your love, attention, and time.
#9. Financially irresponsible.
When you are in a union together and it’s serious you need to think like a couple. Before you went on your shopping spree, did you consult that there were no repairs, upgrades, and other things needed at home? You shouldn’t leave the financial burden on one person’s pay cheque while you shop till you drop.
#10. Being disrespectful.
You are never going to agree on everything and that is totally ok. What is not acceptable is being disrespectful and even mean about it. Treat your partner with the same level of respect you want to be treated.
