Are you an effective communicator?
This is not a fools game, being an effective communicator requires a great deal of skills, with that comes a great sense of psychological responsibility. Psychological responsibility has a very deep and at the same time very vast meaning I believe.
A person who is communicating with you has a different altogether another level of understanding. With that I mean he might be short tempered or humorous or maybe is a sad person going through rough patch in that particular moment in time.
There are numerous possibilities in this big world, all I want to impart is that whoever we are communicating with will never ever be at the same thinking level as of us. So that is everybody’s psychological responsibility to take account of with whoever we are communicating with.
What psychological responsibility while communicating will make you an effective communicator? Read here:
#1 Sensitive and sensible
These two sensitivity and sensibility qualities need a good balance while communicating. We must respect the viewpoint of the person(s) we are communicating with. It is an art of being sensible and sensitive at the same time. Sometimes while conversing we just express ourself forgetting that we were sensible but not sensitive. It is necessary to be articulate which will make sensibility on point but maybe we lack sensitivity. Emotional response of the listener is important.
#2 State of mind
Your state of mind is what a listener first perceives, it is difficult to make them understand if you are angry and saying all the correct things, but still you will fail to create that impact clearly because you are not in your own peace. So your state of mind plays an important part on being an effective communicator.
A calm state of mind, and a smile, will conquer the most difficult of people.
#3 Humor combined with care and concern
A good sense of humor relieves you from fear and anxiety.
Humor is not just about words- reading and repeating jokes. It is the lightness of your being that brings out the authentic humor. And this lightness comes up with taking life itself not too seriously, having a sense of belonging with everybody (including those who are not friendly).
#4 Let heart do all the talking
Almost all relationships break down due to too much talking and explaining about oneself. “I am this way. Don’t mistake me. Don’t misunderstand me.” If you keep silent when required, everything will work out much better. Don’t explain things of the past, brood over them, or ask for explanations. When the heart speaks and the heart listens, harmony is produced.
#5 Real communication is beyond words
All of us have experienced at one time or the other, an amazing phenomenon. Whether in one-to-one communication, or in addressing a huge audience, something intangible moves people more than the words. We try to rationalize by attributing this to charm, charisma, presence, body language, etc. If you are firmly established in the zone of silence, if your mind is calm, you will find yourself suddenly being able to influence individuals, groups, and masses.
#6 Good Listener
This is indeed one of the most important and vital criterion for being an effective communicator. Listening is not just by ears but eyes also, you tend to know the feelings and expressions. They listen to expressions and gestures. Even without understanding words, they communicate with you. Somewhere in the journey of life, we have lost this ability. Let’s make an attempt to regain it.