Can both male and female have one-night stand and walk off the next morning without even caring or regretting and emotionally undamaged ?
One-night stands can be very unidirectional, either you are into them or you are off them, no second thought. The whole idea of being in casual romping with someone is bizarre. There is no confirmation whether male like getting casually hooked-up or female dislike being into casual sex, some researches show men love casual sex, women find it awful; some says women love casual sex and it’s the best way to get some munchies when they are just not ready to carry the dramas a relationship brings along. Well almost majority of us have been through this casual sex, if have more than one, you need to slow down or maybe just stop and change your mindset and if you haven’t been with any one-night standers and feel that you have missed something in your life then, I would say don’t. It’s absolutely fine that you haven’t showed how emotionless you could be. Yes quite a mean remark tho, but honest one.
People described casual sex as liberating, exciting and fun to be with someone who you hold no emotional attachments. So after getting cosy you are a free bird again without any hustle-bustle in your personal life. While they may say things as such to describe their feelings, but how can someone be doing so intimate thing with somebody with no emotional attachments and feel absolutely comfortable about it. Where as I feel it to something unethical,awkward, and uncomfortable and for sure not at all enjoyable, since you don’t know the person no feelings of attachment involved and getting closer to that person is for sure uncomfortable thing happen.
However it may be, that purely is my opinion on this subject anyway and there is no offense to be meant on those who have been through the experience of casual sex.
One night stand is defined in oxford dictionary as ” a sexual relationship lasting for only one night”
Often shown in television how couple meet for casual sex and end up feeling ashamed or longing for real love or even falling in love with each other and stays together till life’s end.Also to add up one night stands must be easy for few of us but at the same time it is not just the thing for them who can’t believe. It is surely not a good thing completely. It holds no emotional feelings and those who say it is fun to be on bed with some strangers for good sex is a lie. You often don’t know the person sexually and sex is something which is explored along the journey of your relationship knowing each other better physically.
Casual sex and /or one night stand is also associated with psychological disorder. So if you find yourself inclined towards more of casual sex or one night stands or romping without any commitments and/or emotional involvements then there is something serious psychological disorder landing you in only troubles.
It has been researched and found out that casual sex preference can increase the risk of being sexually harassed. Also adolescents, who have been sexually harassed at some point in their life is more likely and strongly inclined to have more and more of casual sex, than any other, the findings showed.
According to results it seems here the victim is the criminal and that they are being blamed, but researchers say that it is in anyway not intended to “blame the victim”.
Instead they are trying to find out the actual psychological mechanism which underlie harassment says, Mons Bendixen, Associate professor at Norwegian University of Science & technology in Trondheim, Norway.
It was published in a journal, Evolution and Human Behavior, a study that read the adolescents who were sexually harassed often indulge in casual sex and fantasize more casual sex find it more better way and acceptable habit because it involves no commitments or emotional involvements.
It is the result of being emotionally shattered and badly hurt which aggravates this culture into them and they find it as a escape or solace for their own emotions.
the study included 1,326 heterosexual girls and boys of nearly age 18 years,where non physical sexual harassment was looked at. 60% of girls and boys reported of being sexually harassed while 30% of them confirmed of sexually harassing someone one or more times.
There are n-numbers of singles who long for a partner of course to satisfy their physical need whether they really fall for each other or not is not sure but they find themselves attracted to opposites physically, while partying, or clubbing you often meet singles and if you were thinking to get along with any single for one night then you need to ask yourself whether you are going for longer term relationship or just a night fling.
If you feel you are confused over the subject whether to go for casual sex or not here are some signs which explains you that you are just not okay with it:
If you are looking for love:
“I am looking for true love, serious commitments, long term-relationships, ridiculous convenient consuming can’t live without each other” if you belong to this category then buddy find yourself a genuine partner, trust me there are numerous people carrying this similar agenda of life. you need to keep patience and not hurry up into anybody. What you deserve will follow you if not today then tomorrow it shall.
Till then you focus on building yourself. There are other important things in life to carry forward,surround yourself with friends and don’t stress yourself over being single. When it comes to having one night stands according to some studies women raise their standards, they feel and start searching for long term relations from one night stands whether that is out of love they seek constantly or finding that morally correct is unknown.
So if you really long to settle for single person for your rest of the life, one night stands are dead giveaway , it’s foolish to think of creating something out of nothing, one night stands will land you into more depressed situations and rather you may regret it whole of your life with single thought haunting you every now and then that you could have waited than getting into something your heart fails to approve for.
If your emotional quotient is damn too high:
I have a friend who is so innocent that she starts believing in every guy she ends up finding something or other common with even though that guy will be a total crap material, she will start dreaming of her marriage with that rogue in her head. Haha, yes that is because she is excessively emotional baby, but she is smart enough to understand that one night stands isn’t going her fetch any true love, and also if you can fall in love with the drop of hat you may fall in love again with the drop of pant.
It has been shown in the studies that women fall in love after sex. So better watch out for your steps ladies you don’t want any moron to be tied around your neck , right? If you are emotionally blessed person better keep patience to fall for the best for you and not just any Tom, Dick or Harry.
If you don’t feel the best mentally:
One nights stands may not be for all as reported, only 80% men fell good about it the next morning while the rate were dropped down in case of women which was 54%, women felt as if they were used and dumped or if something is already running low in your life you must don’t go for casual romping. If you don’t feel nice the next morning one night stands aren’t for you. It will only burden you down with regret and remorse.
If you think you will be judged:
Yes there are certain people who no matter what will never ever approve of you doing some casual stuff, there are people with double standards living in our society, and if you are afraid of being judged it’s a good idea of walk off from casual sex.
You can always find pleasures from other means rather hooking up with unknown persons who you are not going to hear from again.
If you feel unsafe:
This holds all the valid points for all of us, one night stands could be so dangerous sometimes, because the person you are hooking up with is not known to you even if that person is your old school friend, you don’t know what disease he/she is carrying or what precautions they are really concerned to take for you for just that one night fling it is not a good idea to get infected yourself on the cost of sex with a STD/HIV infected person. We live in the world of people who are more selfish and sadist and often find pleasure to downgrade you. If you think that it may be unsafe. Better walk straight out of the bed and slam the door behind. It may also happen that after you had your time that person is ruining your name or even blackmailing you for money.
If sex is just another way of showing love to you for your partner:
If you know that you have to be in a longer relationship with a person for rest of your life, and sex for you is another form of love and appreciation for your partner. Save yourself for that single person what’s so hurry?
There are few points to list out why casual sex is a BIG NO?
There are n-numbers of singles who long for a partner of course to satisfy their physical need whether they really fall for each other or not is not sure but they find themselves attracted to opposites physically, while partying, or clubbing you often meet singles and if you were thinking to get along with any single for one night then you need to ask yourself whether you are going for longer term relationship or just a night fling.
If you feel you are confused over the subject whether to go for casual sex or not here are some signs which explains you that you are just not okay with it:
If you are looking for love:
“I am looking for true love, serious commitments, long term-relationships, ridiculous convenient consuming can’t live without each other” if you belong to this category then buddy find yourself a genuine partner, trust me there are numerous people carrying this similar agenda of life. you need to keep patience and not hurry up into anybody. What you deserve will follow you if not today then tomorrow it shall.
Till then you focus on building yourself. There are other important things in life to carry forward,surround yourself with friends and don’t stress yourself over being single. When it comes to having one night stands according to some studies women raise their standards, they feel and start searching for long term relations from one night stands whether that is out of love they seek constantly or finding that morally correct is unknown.
So if you really long to settle for single person for your rest of the life, one night stands are dead giveaway , it’s foolish to think of creating something out of nothing, one night stands will land you into more depressed situations and rather you may regret it whole of your life with single thought haunting you every now and then that you could have waited than getting into something your heart fails to approve for.
If your emotional quotient is damn too high:
I have a friend who is so innocent that she starts believing in every guy she ends up finding something or other common with even though that guy will be a total crap material, she will start dreaming of her marriage with that rogue in her head. Haha, yes that is because she is excessively emotional baby, but she is smart enough to understand that one night stands isn’t going her fetch any true love, and also if you can fall in love with the drop of hat you may fall in love again with the drop of pant.
It has been shown in the studies that women fall in love after sex. So better watch out for your steps ladies you don’t want any moron to be tied around your neck , right? If you are emotionally blessed person better keep patience to fall for the best for you and not just any Tom, Dick or Harry.
If you don’t feel the best mentally:
One nights stands may not be for all as reported, only 80% men fell good about it the next morning while the rate were dropped down in case of women which was 54%, women felt as if they were used and dumped or if something is already running low in your life you must don’t go for casual romping. If you don’t feel nice the next morning one night stands aren’t for you. It will only burden you down with regret and remorse.
If you think you will be judged:
Yes there are certain people who no matter what will never ever approve of you doing some casual stuff, there are people with double standards living in our society, and if you are afraid of being judged it’s a good idea of walk off from casual sex.
You can always find pleasures from other means rather hooking up with unknown persons who you are not going to hear from again.
If you feel unsafe:
This holds all the valid points for all of us, one night stands could be so dangerous sometimes, because the person you are hooking up with is not known to you even if that person is your old school friend, you don’t know what disease he/she is carrying or what precautions they are really concerned to take for you for just that one night fling it is not a good idea to get infected yourself on the cost of sex with a STD/HIV infected person. We live in the world of people who are more selfish and sadist and often find pleasure to downgrade you. If you think that it may be unsafe. Better walk straight out of the bed and slam the door behind. It may also happen that after you had your time that person is ruining your name or even blackmailing you for money.
If sex is just another way of showing love to you for your partner:
If you know that you have to be in a longer relationship with a person for rest of your life, and sex for you is another form of love and appreciation for your partner. Save yourself for that single person what’s so hurry?
There are few points to list out why casual sex is a BIG NO?
- Worried about your own need
- Hurting oneself emotionally
- Regretting One night stands could be damaging on your mental health.
- Fear of meeting that person in future.
- If you believe getting into stranger’s bed is ethically poor.
- You often run in fear of catching infections
- You think it as betrayal and feel as if you have cheated on your partner and same goes for your partner if you could approve him/her of doing the same to you.
- Fear of getting caught red-handed.
- You keep your principles and partner above your mere lust.
- If you are already in a committed and rational relationship with someone.
- Fear of justifying your own self after one night stand.
- You truly follow some human values and share your love with someone you admire and long to stay forever in your life.
- You may end up getting addicted to sex.
- You will be emotionally lesser stable and may get depressed.
- Multiple sex partners are not good for your body.
- How can you expect an unknown give you good sex experience when he doesn’t know about your body at all?
- If you are a one man/woman type of person.
- If you love your reputation and can not ruin it for the sake of any unknown fling.
- You really understand the purpose of sex and emotional attachments.
- If you are not a sex machine.
There are absolutely numerous valid reasons to not to fall into one night stand categories. It is your responsibility to understand and respect yourself your body, your soul and your mind. We can only show you the way, on which you have to walk all by yourself. Choose wisely, select smartly and walk like a winner.