- Flirt with other.
- Engage in sexual talks with someone else.
- Exchange of personal messages and e-mails to someone else.
- Denying being married or in a relationship.
- Spending time with specific individual.
- Sleeping with someone else.
- Exchanging intimate gifts or presents to someone else.
- Chatting online with someone else ( any-kind of chat whether that is simply asking about their whereabouts or how-about) [ Online Affairs]
- Having sexual contacts with someone [ Physical infidelity]
- Becoming emotional involved with someone else[ Emotional infidelity]
- Developing a crush or feelings for another individual.
- Sharing your most private thoughts and feelings with another being.
- Becoming best friends with someone of opposite gender.
- Behaving friendly with other individual.
- Passing smiles and making eye contacts with others hiding your partners’ gaze.
- Glaring others and finding them hot in sexual manners.
- Making new friends of opposite gender in secret form.
- Hiding your personal chats with other so called friends.
It has been discovered that:
72% of men consider physical/ sexual affairs worse than emotional affairs.69% women consider emotional affairs worse than sexual affairs.76% of women will forgive their partner for sexual affairs.only 35% of men would forgive their partner for sexual affair.
80% of men said they would forgive for emotional affairs.30% of women said they would forgive for emotional affairs.
Women feel emotional dependency on someone else apart from their partner is bad:
women believe emotional attachments are important aspect of love relationship, which leads to strong connection, where as hook-ups are considered to be emotion less mechanical instinct.
Women are more likely to forgive the thought of physical cheating as long as if the partner was not in love with the other person.
Men consider physical cheating as more devastating than emotional cheating:
Men tend to forgive emotional cheating but can not stand physical cheating, sexual involvement of their partner with someone else is not acceptable whereas it is absolutely fine for them and easy to understand that spending some time with other person is not a problematic behavior .
Why do they cheat if they love?
Many articles say although the actual reason for cheating is unexplained, though cheating is equally noticed from women and men with single reason being craving for affection.
In the book ” The Truth About Cheating” author and marriage counselor M.Gary Neuman found that 92% of men said cheating was not about sex , the reason men cheated on their partner is often emotional, which means disconnected feel with their partner on emotional front, or being under-appreciation by their spouse.
There are many people who think their relationship felt a cheating jerk because their sex life went bad and they no longer loved each other, but that is not the case, infact majority of people confirmed that they still were in love very much with their spouses just that not felt cared for enough. Which turned out to be their reasons for cheating on their partners.
Know…!
You can only identify whether you have cheated/cheating your partner or not is through thorough discussions. Talking to each other honestly to know what hurts one another and stopping within time before it brings storm in you life and destroys everything. Know one other and respect their expectations from you.
The more honesty in your talking the better survival chances of your relationship.
What to do if found guilty of cheating?
If you committed mistake and feeling remorseful, or, you didn’t know/unsure that your behavior/action was actually cheating and but deep down you have justification problem to yourself and you have been doing R&D on the related topic to find out how true it is, then probably it’s time to come out clear. Tell your partner about the mistake you did, as no one is perfect and human tend to do mistake. Be brave enough to accept and strong enough to change your mistake, seek forgiveness from your spouse, and help yourself become a better person.
Partners should also support their spouses in this time as to forgive or not to forgive is totally their call. It depends how damage it caused to you and you felt humiliated by your spouse’s mistake/cheating. But remember this is not the end, of the relationship or the world, instead take it as a second chance to modify your behavior for the betterment of your own self if your partners forgive you. Never break their trust again.
Although 55% of people never told their partner about their infidelity, for fear of separation. It is found that the couple who came up and accepted their cheating, were equally happy as a couple after five years down the line which was more likely to be same as the couple who never cheated on their partners. Moreover their relation grew much stronger in most cases and their love and care for each other increased after they opened up to their partner and changed their mistake.
It is always a good idea of bringing matters into light rather keeping your partner in dark, that would be even worse than cheating. Committing crime and hiding it won’t do any good to either of you.
First of all you must respect your partner’s expectations, and even if you have by any chance betrayed that accept it, whether your spouse agrees and forgives you or not is totally different scenario. Honesty is the best policy and it works in the matters of relationships.
What if you sense your spouse being a cheater?
There may situations come when your spouse start behaving suspicious and starts hiding messages and phones from you. If you by any chance think he/she is cheating you can openly come up with the question whether he is cheating on you or not?
It is good idea to ask directly than making assumptions as it may be only overthinking on something by you and nothing serious or as bad as it gets illusion-ed by your brain. Conversation always helps. It may turn out that he/she wasn’t aware of if that was hurting you and it doesn’t mean your partner don’t love you or don’t want to be with you in relationship or have stopped caring for you.
Is is obvious to feel low both men and women may experience that lowness in their life to find out being cheated but until you talk about it you will never know the other possibilities it has to offer.
If you are sure enough of your partner’s cheating and you have been forgiving your spouse for multiple times for being a cheater. You need to take a decision strong enough to protect yourself from further damage. If your relationship is abusive and still you hold onto it for the sake of the relationship, you need to take a help from counselor and understand your emotional needs and if required don’t hesitate to walk off it. Only to explore new chapters in life waiting for only and inclusively you.