There are certain actions and behaviors women are in the habit of doing — usually without even knowing it — that are blocking them from having great dates, meeting new people and maybe even finding love.
So stop doing/felling these 6 things if you really want a long lasting relationship.
1. Saying NO more than YES
If you’ve ever been told “Maybe you’re just too picky,” then this tip is for you.
Being somewhat picky can be a good thing when exploring deal breakers and boundaries, however, you also need to date a wide range of people to be sure what those deal breakers and boundaries are.
2. Thinking too much about the future
If the pressure is on to find a partner, someone might look at any advance or date with analytical eyes, trying to determine if this person has marriage and/or baby-making qualities.
Let me stop you right here because, if you really think about this, it’s an insane way to look at a person.
Looking through future glasses makes it impossible to really see the person in front of you.
You really don’t know what marriage material will be until you’ve dated someone for quite some time and, by that time, your definition of what you are looking for will probably change anyway.
A future-focused mindset is no way to find a fulfilling relationship here in the present.
Take a few deep breaths, calm down and live in little more in the NOW. Worry about the future later — after all, it’s just a date.
3. Playing games
This is not a matter of “being mean to keep them keen” or playing those chase-me type of games, but rather having the confidence to have your own life and put boundaries in place.
Have you knocked back so many dinner requests, messages or calls — in an attempt to keep him eager — that he now thinks he has a better chance elsewhere?
Find that balance between having your own life and morals, but making sure a guy knows you’re interested. If you don’t, someone else will.
4. Using sex as a weapon
This is where a smart, single girl needs to use her brain and her instincts to work out what’s best in a given situation.
Is the sex itself rewarding or is the fact that he’s managed to have sex with you the reward? Make sure you aren’t using sex just to get a guy.
Sex can be the start of a relationship or the moment when two people realize they click, but it can’t be used as a weapon in a healthy relationship.
You can’t get more vulnerable than when you are naked and inside another person. The danger is — when sex is used only to lure someone — the relationship might be too heavily built around his ability to win sex.
This introduces an element of competition and, usually, you aren’t being really true to yourself and all you have to offer.
5. Listening too much to others
Your friends aren’t mind-readers, so don’t expect them to be. Also, there’s a side to the story they don’t know — his.
Your friends will always try to protect you and, so, without knowing the whole story, they might instinctively push you towards the negative, suggesting you pull away or even walk away from the relationship.
Be careful when asking for others’ opinions because they are not your opinion. YOU are the only one who has all the facts, and their judgment might persuade your mind to go somewhere it shouldn’t be.
6. Feeling down about being single
Single doesn’t have to suck. It can actually be quite the opposite. It’s a time to explore, experiment and hog all the covers in bed.